Life as an ENTJ

“I feel close to people when they stop and think about my logic because in my head, there are clear patterns and I just want for you to see them too.”


Have you ever read something that just completely made sense to you? So much sense that you find yourself stuck on the words? Mind pondering on each sentence trying to extract every possible meaning, breaking it down to ensure you aren’t mistaken in their design or purpose. If you have stumbled across this phenomenon in your life, know that you aren’t alone because it has repeatedly happened to me.

So recently, I found myself on a random binge of personalities types. For those who don’t know anything about it, what I am referring to is the Myer-Briggs Type Indicator. Wikipedia calls it an introspective self-report questionnaire with the purpose of indicating differing psychological preferences in how people perceive the world around them and make decisions. So basically, it groups people into 16 different categories and breaks down traits about each personality.

And this is absolutely fascinating! I have been interested in things like this since high school. I had a friend who’s mother had a birthday book that described personalities according to their birthday. If I am not mistaken, I think I read that entire book (especially the days of people I knew). The zodiac was also very intriguing though not as much as that birthday book or the 16 personalities. Anyway, I decided to take the test again. I do this every few years to see if I fluctuate between types but my results have always been the same.

I was an ENTJ. The Commander type according to

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The Commander type are suppose to be natural-born leaders. They embody the gifts of charisma and confidence, projecting authority in a way that draws crowds together behind a common goal. They are also characterized by an ruthless level of rationality, using their drive, determination and sharp mind to achieve whatever end they’ve set for themselves. They love challenges no matter the size and they are very confident if given enough time and resources, they can achieve any goal.

Some of the strengths are being Efficient, Energetic, Self-Confident, Strong willed, Strategic Thinkers, and charismatic. Their weakness are Stubborn, intolerant, impatient, arrogant, cold (sometime ruthless), and they are poor at handling their emotions.

Here some of the things I picked up from around the web.

  • ENTJ’s strongest still is developing a variety of possible solutions and then strategically analyzing them. They are natural born leaders who uses their charm and confidence to project a natural authority. Excellent at reading people due to your ability to see patterns, coining the trait fortune teller. Usually highly successful at work because of your drive, rationality, determination, and sharp wit. It allows you to solve problems quickly and actively seek out that next challenge.
  • ENTJ’s weaknesses are that some may feel you are unapproachable because of your personality when in reality, you love to talk to people. You can be augmentative at times because of the thrill of debate but it can turn people off. should learn to be more realistic when it comes to the expectations of others.

I will just link them here.

Sounds cool, right? I was ecstatic to read something that sounds so much like me. To have something to confirm some of the things you do and some of the weakness that others have said about you. I was fascinated to find out that some of the stuff I knowingly struggle with was mention in the results of the test.


The quote I used in the beginning is usually how I approach conversations. It may sound weird to some people, but I don’t necessarily want to win an debate or argument. I really just want to understand how you came to your choice or perspective while at the same time, explaining how I came to mine. This was actually very hard for me when I was growing up. I always felt like I was looking at the world from a different angle than most people. I usually the kid that found an easier way to do something that took less effort if I just put the work in.

This often translated in me pushing those around me to give the same effort that I was given in things with me not understanding why they wouldn’t want to if it would benefit them in the end. So where I was approaching something from a logical stand point most of my friends and my significant other at the time was approaching it from an emotional perspective that I did not understand and that logical unfortunately dismisses. I can’t tell you how many times this has caused arguments or good debates with my peers which I may have enjoyed because we were comparing perspectives and ideals but I know they did not.

I’ve been told quite a few times that I talk to people differently from what they are used to. It sounds like to them that I am talking down to them or belittling them and I have NEVER understood this. They say that I come off not considering their feelings on the matter but I never looked at it from a feeling perspective. Usually, when people come to me with reasons as to why they can’t do something, I usually point out the reasons why they actually can given their situation and this rubs people the wrong way. Reading into my personality traits help me identify why I agree with it. I tend to be a bit cold and calculated when it comes to decision making. I have been that way since I was little. The logical way to viewing problems will yield the best way to solving them. This in turn ignored my feelings and that of others which caused problems that I know understand. I have gotten a lot better at voicing my thoughts and opinions better.


Ultimately, I found this test to be very fascinating as it has help me recognize some of my faults and enabled me to address them to correct them when dealing with others. It isn’t 100% accurate and it doesn’t have to be if it points out some of the things that you know you do when you are honest with your self-reflection.

Do you believe in the personality test? If so, have you taken it before? What is your personality type? Do you agree with the results? I am very intrigue to know your type.

As always, thanks for stopping by and reading. I really appreciate it!

And until the next post…

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. – Steve Jobs, a fellow ENTJ.


I really love this song… >_<




4 Comments Add yours

  1. lynnsheridan says:

    Always an INTJ for me like Gandalf and Tywin Lannister…

    1. Look out, Francis Underwood isn’t anyone to mess with! (Lol)

  2. Atra Fabula says:

    I relate. I am ENTJ also, and often have people harping about their feelings and how I’ve offended them when it was never my intention, and I never understand how. MBTI explained a lot for me, and I find it very accurate for me, as well as for others I know who have taken it.

  3. Never the intention. You just find a clear route to a solution when in reality, they really just want someone to coddle their feelings and support them. (Which I can’t do because it doesn’t solve the problem… it just prolongs it.) So when you give your response, usually with their best interest in mind, you are being rude and/or inconsiderate. Or cold.

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